An acquaintance of mine posted this on Facebook the other day:
Every Sunday morning I come to the gym and there is a girl here in full makeup (lipstick, blush, the full works) and her hair all done perfect. (And she’s a size 2 with a boob job) Why?!?! It’s the gym on a Sunday morning!! I’m here with my messy bun hair and no make up. #eatahamburger #youdonthavetobeperfect
So many thoughts flooded my mind. But the first was, WHO CARES if she was wearing makeup with perfect hair? And more importantly, why care so much you have to put it on Facebook? As women we MUST STOP judging each other. It’s just as okay for the one women to show up in “full makeup and perfect hair” as it is for the writer to show up with messy bun hair and no make up.
And don’t even get me started on the #eatahamburger hashtag. You have no idea what people eat or don’t eat and it is truly none of your business. I assume the writer was saying this because she implied the lady was a size 2. Again, you have no idea if she is happy with her body and her body image or not.
The first comment under the post (from a female) was “She wants attention, probably very insecure.” How the hell would you know? If this lady wants to go to the gym in a cocktail dress, so be it. It’s HER LIFE and HER CHOICE.
Regan Chastain’s underpants rule is one rule that I love and it applies here:
If someone’s decisions are personal and don’t affect me, then the Underpants Rule applies: they are the boss of their underpants and it’s not for me to interfere if they want to diet, or attempt to climb Everest, or take the cinnamon challenge. If someone’s decisions do affect me directly, including and especially if they are attempting to infringe on my rights, then it’s a UR violation.
What someone wears to the gym (or anywhere) does not affect you. What size someone is does not affect you. If someone has had a boob job or not does not affect you. What someone eats (or doesn’t eat) again doesn’t affect you.
As women, we need to learn to admire each other’s beauty without questioning our own. We need to lift each other up, not put each other down. We need to empower each other. We need to realize there is room in this world for all of us to be successful and to be beautiful.Stop Judging Other Women. We Need To Lift Each Other Up. We Need to Admire Each Other's Beauty. Click To Tweet
I challenge each of you today to compliment other women and try to lift them up and encourage them.